A response to Becca Rothfeld's New Yorker essay, "All Good Sex Is Body Horror" in which I claim that married sex is more transformative than she suggests
This piece feels more like you wanted to write marriage smut and quantify your own sex life to an audience rather than meaningfully engage with what Rothfeld wrote.
I don't come back here much, apologies, but I'm glad I did to see your comment. I disagree that what I wrote didn't meaningfully engage with Rothfeld - I directly challenged it. See the transformation discussion related to pregnancy above. But I also think that one of the main reasons people think married people have bad sex is that married people don't talk about how good their sex is. This essay was an opportunity to let young women know that married sex and the intimacy that accompanies it is better than they have been told (lied to). Apologies if it wasn't your cup of tea.
Beautiful! I can’t disconnect sex from emotional connection and have zero desire to try.
This piece feels more like you wanted to write marriage smut and quantify your own sex life to an audience rather than meaningfully engage with what Rothfeld wrote.
I don't come back here much, apologies, but I'm glad I did to see your comment. I disagree that what I wrote didn't meaningfully engage with Rothfeld - I directly challenged it. See the transformation discussion related to pregnancy above. But I also think that one of the main reasons people think married people have bad sex is that married people don't talk about how good their sex is. This essay was an opportunity to let young women know that married sex and the intimacy that accompanies it is better than they have been told (lied to). Apologies if it wasn't your cup of tea.